Porn for Brides

Wedding magazines are nothing but porn for brides. Glossy,airbrushed pictures of happy couples, delicious cakes and artfully constructed floral arrangements. There are hundreds of bridal magazines on the market. I know I work at a bookstore I spend more time putting away stacks of mags than I do legitimately helping people find books. There are bridal magazines published exclusively for the place you live, for cakes, for honeymoons, for hair and dresses. Yet, as any other female with a wedding on her mind I found myself drawn to the bridal magazine section.I have purchased three so far: 805 Weddings, Brides Southern California,Los Angeles Weddings and I was given a copy of Town & Country Weddings. I have since recycled 805 Weddings it was the worst of them all. Most of the information in the magazines is useless to me. I don't need tips on favors to get my bridesmaids or honeymoon locales.

805 Weddings, like my copy of Los Angeles Weddings, boasted sections about "REAL WEDDINGS". Yes, these weddings are real. They involved real people, these weddings really happened but to me these weddings still bordered on the unreal. These couples had the luxury of money and time on their side. A luxury most couples do not have. Some of the weddings featured were simple and elegant and I liked the look of them. Some of them looked like the color pink had vomited over everything and that there was no time at all where the word "NO!" was spoken. I was tempted to call 805 weddings and have them chronicle my wedding. When asked who made my dress I would not be able to gush,"Vera Wang" when asked I'd say "You're looking at it. This is it. One wedding, one location,one time, one small budget."

I do not mean to degrade or diminish the importance of weddings or these real couple's weddings. I know women have been told from a young age or were told when they became engaged a million cliches. "Happiest day of your life." "Perfect". "You should be a Princess, a queen." "Everything you want." I have understood that marriage is sacrifice, work and compromise. It is not perfect. I would rather not start my marriage off with a fantasy. So when I think real I think reality, as in check, and not check it at the door with your coat and brain. We are not entering into an economy,a world, that supports wastefulness and greed. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but that is reality.